My little cousin keeps asking for college preparation advice and I’m just like, “Lol iono”.
I’m probs not the best person to answer these questions. Sometimes I get terrible anxiety bc I feel like his parents, my aunt and uncle, look at me with disdain and use me as an example on what not to do.
It makes me chuckle with nervousness when they ask me how’s school and stuff. All I can say is that I’m getting p. good grades and I have a job and volunteer position that may or may not pertain to my future career.
I want to tell them, “who knows?” but I know that as adults, particularly Southeast Asian immigrants, they don’t take that answer lightly.
I hear that they tell him to go to a school out of state, that it is better. I hope they didn’t get this notion from me. I’m not a good example.
Sometimes I feel horrible bc I didn’t set out to do what I pushed so heavily for exactly one year ago, but then I think about how fabulous I’m doing now and I know that it was the right decision.
I want to tell my little cousin, you do what you need to do and do the best you can during which, but I know that the next few years of his life will be difficult and wretchedly confusing.
There isn’t much advice I can adhere because no matter how much I say, he won’t understand it until he faces them himself and by then he’ll probably have waived off my advice as phooey.
What I tell my family now is an answer I can’t even fully iterate to myself.
I honestly do not know and I wish I could say this without having to sound devastatingly lost, because I’m not.
I know I’m not and that’s the best for now.